Parents who share parenting time and decision-making authority have to find ways to cooperate with one another. They can achieve that goal by establishing certain rules that govern family dynamics.
If the children in the family already participate in extracurricular activities or might hope to as they mature, parents need to be ready for those activities to create strain on their co-parenting relationship. What issues related to extracurricular activities do parents need to address?
Restrictions and standards
One parent may want the children to try any sport or activity they might enjoy. The other might oppose full-contact sports or other activities that they view as dangerous or pointless.
Parents may need to agree on what activities are appropriate at which ages. They may also need to agree on standards the children have to meet to participate, such as maintaining their grades and performing household obligations.
Parental attendance
Many extracurricular opportunities provide options for parents to participate. They can volunteer as coaches or referees. They can bring snacks for everyone to share after practice or host get-togethers before games.
Parents may need to discuss how they intend to split up attendance or have rules in place so that they can attend together to cheer for their children jointly. Parents may also need to decide how they will cover the costs generated by extracurricular activities.
Addressing potential sources of conflict in a shared custody scenario ahead of time can lead to more peaceful co-parenting. Parents who recognize that extracurricular activities can cause disputes can establish agreements during their divorce negotiations to minimize conflict later.