Determining that you want to dissolve your marriage can be one of the toughest decisions. With the sensitivity of this matter, you need to be sure you want a divorce before filing for one.
Here are four questions you and your spouse should ask yourselves:
Are you just fighting, or do you want a divorce?
Marriages have ups and downs. Chances are you and your spouse have fought about different matters. Thus, when considering divorce, pause to clarify if you are having a “bad” period in your marriage or if you want to dissolve it.
If you are going through marriage misunderstandings that you believe can be solved, consider other solutions, such as therapy. However, if you have tried different solutions that have proved the matter at hand is irreconcilable, you may go ahead with divorce.
Is there someone else?
When considering divorce, you need to assess your other relationships closely. Is there someone else in your life or your spouse’s who has been offering an emotional connection?
If there is, it may be wise to reduce communication with them. This way, you can determine whether or not issues in your marriage are pushing you to a divorce. Going through a divorce due to external factors can eventually lead to regrets.
Can you handle the effects of divorce?
Divorce will affect different aspects of your life. You may experience financial, physical and mental effects. Learn more about the potential effects and how to handle them.
How will it affect the kids?
If you have children, you need to keep them in mind. Research the impacts of divorce on kids of different ages and how you can help yours cope with it.
Before you and your spouse file for divorce, you need to be certain about your decision. Consider legal help to know if it’s time for a divorce.